I’ve had a right day of it today. Well if I’m honest, I’ve had a right goodness knows how many months of it.
Certain people really do my nut in! Why is it that if it’s blue, and you tell me it’s red, and everyone else knows it’s blue as well, and when I disagree with you, you are going to take my head off because you can’t be told?! Why are people so pigheaded?? Human nature, I’m sure, but these kinda arrogant people start wars. I’m not saying be a walk over and brake your back to adapt to mold into the shape you’re told to by every tom, dick and harry; but at least learn to accept that you DONT know everything, and you CANT always be right!
And why is it…that no matter what…certain people think that the sun shines out of their kids’ backsides?! I’m always wrong in my actions, and your child, even when they do the same thing and worse, is never wrong, but I’m like the blacksheep of the flock??? I’m making myself sound like a rebellious idiot at the moment, but if I were to go into actual detail, it’s things sooooo trivial it’s almost laughable…yet it’s these little things that are almost soul destroying/relationship (not matter what kind of relationship) breaking.
There’s a certain age your kid gets to, and you have no choice but loosen the chain, and then eventually to let go. I’m not saying, neglect, ill-treat, abandon the child, but let the child grow into an adult and not have him/her still living at mummy’s, aged 30, wearing nappies! No, I haven’t got any children as yet, but I do intend to, and growing up with a mother who has almost suffocated me because she refuses to let go, and seeing the mother/mother-in-law’s around me/my friends, has taught me many things about how you can destroy things with this kind of behaviour. Your son will grow up one day, and you wont be the only woman in his life anymore, but don’t wreck his marriage because you despise that fact. Some of you may think “surely not” but one of my closest friends is living that reality at the moment. Anyway…
Please don’t take this in the wrong way…in no way am I saying that I wish I didn’t have a mother, because no no nooo way…I love my mum, but I’m saying the transition from her “little girl” to her adult daughter, has to happen.
Plenty of young lives have been lead astray through neglect, lack of guidance, or lack of discipline from mother/carers/families; and I am so so grateful that I had a good mother to keep me in check, as I know people who has lost parents and would do anything to get them back, or people that would give anything just to have a mother.
I dont know how to sum up this post, but I wanted to express the frustration… so, i guess this’ll have to do…
Any feedback as to why certain people behave in the ways they do, would be greatly appreciated.